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The Repair
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For dads who can feel something's off in their marriage. The distance. The repeat fights. The conversations that always end the same. Seven moves over 14 days. Try one tonight.
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7 Moves · 14 Days
Days 1–2
The Four Horsemen
Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling. Notice them in you, not just her.
Days 3–4
The Repair Attempt
One sentence. The move that keeps the conversation in the room.
Days 5–6
When You Go Silent
Flooding, stonewalling, and how to leave a hard conversation without leaving the relationship.
Days 7–8
Five to One
The ratio of small positive moments that quietly holds a marriage together.
Days 9–10
Withdrawing
Needing space versus going dark. The script that makes the difference.
Days 11–12
Coming Back
How to recover from a bad week. One sentence opens it. The rest is showing up.
Days 13–14
Integration
Pick the moves that landed for you and the marriage. Build them in for the long run.
What you'll work through
- The four patterns Gottman uses to predict divorce with 90%+ accuracy — and how to spot them in yourself
- The repair attempt — one sentence that keeps a relationship in the room
- Why most men go silent under pressure, and how to step away without abandoning
- The 5:1 ratio — what stable couples do every day that struggling ones don't
- The difference between needing space and going dark — and the script that handles both
- How to come back from a bad week without performing reconciliation
Who this is for
Partnered dads who can feel something's quietly wrong
Men in long marriages where the small repairs have stopped happening
Fathers who don't want their kids growing up watching the same thing dying
Anyone ready to be the one who bends first, just to see what happens