We've All Been Him · Series B

We've all been
Don Draper.

Mad Men

Don Draper is the best-looking liar on television.

He's successful. Sharp. The kind of man other men want to be — until you watch long enough to see what's underneath. A man running from himself so hard he literally became someone else.

Every drink. Every affair. Every perfectly delivered pitch. It's all the same thing — distance. Distance from the kid who grew up with nothing. Distance from the feelings he can't outrun no matter how many hotel rooms he checks into.

Most men aren't hiding a stolen identity. But plenty are performing a version of themselves that looks right from the outside and feels hollow on the inside. The work persona. The "I'm fine" when you're not. The refusal to let anyone close enough to see what's actually going on.

Don Draper had everything a man could want.

And none of it was real. Because he wasn't.

The move out

What to do when you recognise the pattern.

Find the one person who gets the version of you that's not for sale. If there isn't one, that's the problem to solve first.

Then practice being unimpressive in front of them — bored, tired, scared, whatever's actually true. The performance gets exhausting because the audience never lets up. The cure is one room with no audience.

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